1.Chinese except friendships to be more lasting.2.Different foundations for friendships. 3.Westerns expect friends to be independent. 4. Chinese usually expect more from their friends.Chinese except friendships to be more lasting.For Chinese a true friendship endures throughout life changes. Chinese are friends even if they haven’t spoken for 20 years. If you shared something at one time, then all your life you are friends. This is the best of guanxi(关系), the Wide Web that connects Chinese through time and space. So, we can say Chinese invented the Internetlong before Bill Gates was born. In North America, even the relationship in which people feel close and tell each other personal problems may not survive life changes such as moving to another city, graduation from a university or marriage. If the people do not see each other regularly, the relationship is likely to die.Different foundations for friendships.Chinese friends share “ things in common”: a task, a class, the hometown. Friendships are formed by people who work or go to school together. You may or may not like the person, but if he or she can do something for you because of his position or job, you can be friends.
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But in North America, business and friendship are kept separate. The friendships are usually tied to specific activities. A person may have work
friends and leisure (休闲时) activity friends. Also friends tend to have similar financial circumstances, because friendship in the West is based on equality.Westerns expect friends to be independent.Why? It’s because their friendship is mostly a matter of providing emotional support and spending time together, so they do not feel comfortable in a relationship in which one and the other is dependent on westerner will respond to asking “What do you want help the friend to think person is giving more what is giving. A a friend’s trouble by to do?” The idea is to
out the problem and discover the solution he or she really wants and then to support the solution. Chinese friends give each other more concrete help. A Chinese will use personal connections to help a friend get something hard to obtain. They give each other money and might help each other out financially
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over a long time.Chinese usually expect more from their friends.In the West, you can certainly ask a friend to do something with you, but you recognize that your friend may say no, if he or she gives you as reason. You would not expect a friend to drop everything to respond to a non-urgent need such as shopping. Nor would you expect a friend to recognize and respond to your wishes without stating them.A friend in China is someone who offers help without waiting to be asked. There are few limits to what you can expect from a friend. You can feel free to tell your friend what he or she can or should do or help or please you.Rachel GreenMonica Geller Phoebe BuffayJoey TribbianiChandler Bing Ross GellerFriendsis an American sitcom which premiered on NBC on September 22, 1994. The series revolves around a group of friends in the area of Manhattan, New York City, who occasionally live together and share living expenses. The friendship between them are strong and touching.The Greenwich Village building used as the friends' apartment block in
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establishing shots. The Central Perk Good friends are like stars. You don’t always see them, but you know they are always there.
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